Working for her

I just read several posts that my wife wrote while I was in New Orleans for work last week. Several times, she mentions that I never have to work for her. I have to confess that I'm not really sure that I know what that means. When I was icing my sac after my vasectomy in March, I sat and plotted out how I could fix the problems that I had caused by stubbornly refusing the delay my surgery. I ended up not needing those plans, but that's the closest I can come to having a picture of what working for her looks like.

She also went into detail about her feelings that I settled for her. Those comments really upset me. We've been through some pretty heavy stuff in our relationship, but I've never thought about leaving her. I love her too much. Maybe we could debate the first couple of months of our relationship, but once I fell in love with her, I've never wavered. She seems to have a much bigger issue with my lack of serious relationships prior to her than I do. We had a great night last weekend, but rather than just be pleased with the outcome, she questions the validity of my judgement. It's frustrating for me. She's making issues where there are no issues to worry about.