Nice guys care too much about what everybody else thinks. The nice guy seeks approval. He wants to be liked, approved of, held in high regard. He lets other people define him. His goals are other people's goals. He seeks what he thinks people want rather than pursuing his desires. He has no desires of his own. He only seeks to become what other people want. Well, at least what he thinks other people want.
The nice guy never gets power. Power is nothing more than the freedom to act, the freedom to do what you think needs to be done (or what you want to do) with little regard to the expectations and feelings of others. The nice guy only cares about the feelings of others. The standard for all judgements is what other people, especially those deemed important, will think.
Who do you admire? Do you admire the milquetoast who goes with the flow, or do you admire the man who gets things done? We admire those who achieve, those who strive and claw and produce. That's not the legacy of the nice guy. The nice guy leaves no legacy. He leaves a trail of fading impressions.
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